I live in a 24’x8’ RV with my boyfriend and cat. Sharing this small space can be frustrating at times. Yair and I have endeavored to communicate openly and frequently about what works and what doesn’t in an attempt to find balance in space sharing.

We seem to naturally complement each other in things like housework: Yair is happy to do the dishes while I have made a habit of cleaning the floors and counters weekly. Yair makes repairs (most recently by replacing old, cracking sealant on the roof) and I make improvements (currently installing black-out curtains around the bed). But the most helpful agreement we’ve made so far has been a benefit to us beyond reducing frustration.

For about two hours a day I leave the RV, giving Yair time to himself to focus on what he enjoys, while giving myself an incentive to run and explore outside (my own form of “me” time). This is time for me to un-clutter thoughts, remember what’s been forgotten, and rewrite my to-dos, and the exercise and adventure puts me in a good mood. I return to the RV feeling positive and creative and often with new direction in problem solving. I usually find Yair in the middle of an activity that he enjoys, a chance to glimpse his inner world.

We have our occasional grumpy days but so far this arrangement is working well. The only hiccups occur when we  travel to a new place – when most of the day has been driving, running errands, and getting settled. We are both exploring ways to combat the stresses of these situations. But it seems like most of the magic is in having patience and a sense of humor.

Our recent travels have taken us from Sierra Hot Springs to Reno, stopping in Tahoe National Forest along the way. The hot springs and forest were very beautiful and relaxing and living in a city as large as Reno feels quite strange. Traffic? Lights at night? Sounds other than chipmunks? But it feels like it’s all worth it when we go grocery shopping – variety!

We’re here because of the airport – I’m flying to NYC for the weekend to visit family. And I’m expecting an even bigger culture shock when I get there…